They call me a feminist. Well feminist this…
If you like be a liberated progressive woman secure in your own self worth and so self confident you insist wearing short skirts is a human right. If you wear a short skirt or show cleavage, African man will jump you with the regularity of a rat jumping into cheese. Its how they’re wired. They react to the sight of a short skirt or some cleavage like bulls react to the capote de brega. They will charge with all the finesse of a pile driver.
He’s usually unapologetic about it too. He insists you’re dressing to attract and distract him. He argues that its sexual harassment. “I’m flesh and blood now! What do you expect”. If you point out to them how ridiculous his reaction is considering less than a hundred years ago most of us still ran around naked (and presumably didn’t spend all day aroused) he might laugh and proudly tell you about a grand father or great uncle that had 100 wives. He is usually from Sapele or Lafia.
Do you remember Zuma’s defence to the 2009 rape of a younger female colleague? He said her short skirt was a challenge a zulu warrior like himself he could not ignore. That’s the African man talking right there. It’s ‘invitation to treat’ or ‘provocation’ depending on who he’s trying to convince he’s innocent. Every body else is guilty of course.
Because the same African Man doesn’t believe that a man and a woman who are not related can have an intimate relationship devoid of sex. He expects that all intimacy between a man and a woman will lead to sex. If it doesn’t then someone must be gay. Or retarded. Or lying. Or just a loser.
So whether you like it or not how you dress is about more than how you feel. I heard about a Nigerian woman that wore short figure hugging outfits to work. I think it made her feel sexy and powerful. She insisted it was her right and she was within organisational dress code regulations. She had filed more sexual harassment complaints than any of her other female colleagues. Must have been exhausting.
I am not suggesting control of how women dress, or control of how men react to how women dress (no, you cannot have your cake and eat it). I’m just informing sisters of what happens when you wear a short dress in Africa. If that’s what you intend to happen, that’s cool. If not be ready to fight for your honour and your rights.